The Danger of Taking Yourself too Seriously

I’ve shared with you all before that I’m not the biggest holiday lover. I’m not anti holidays, but this time of year always leaves me feeling melancholy. In an effort to fight back this year, I’ve turned to journaling and mediation to help me navigate these murky waters. One thing I’ve come to realize that one of the underlying factors is that I take myself too seriously. So let’s dig into this and discuss the dangers of taking yourself too seriously.

Personality Types

Not sure how familiar you are with the various personality types but there are quite a few. Let me clarify I’m not talking about the more in-depth categorization of 16 Personality Types (click here to take the test and find out your personality type for free). I’m talking about the most general personality types classification – A, B, C, &D.

Didn’t know there was a type C&D did you? Don’t feel bad. I definitely didn’t know either. But let’s get into this breakdown shall we?

Type As are the competitive, over achieving, goal oriented folks. They are perfectionist and tend to be wound a little too tight. Type Bs are the opposite: more laid back and relaxed. They are more flexible and can adapt to change easily. Their expectations are a lot more realistic. However their laidback nature can often be interpreted as lazy or complacent.

Type Cs are pretty similar to Type As in that they are hardworking and love to achieve. However, they are the perfectionists. They set their own standards (which tend to be very high) and make sure they every T is crossed and I is dotted. Logic and rationality are their strong suits except when it comes to critiquing their own work. Type Ds are the look before you leap types. They are very cautious and look for more stability and longevity. When things are in disarray, the can get a bit off balanced.

Links to Health

Depending on your personality, you are more susceptible to stress. Type As are typically easily overwhelmed and impatient. Then you have the Type Cs who put unrealistic expectations on themselves and situations which is never a good recipe. Type Ds overthink the tiniest things and blow them out of proportion at times. Basically every personality that takes themselves to seriously is at risk for stress. That pressure is not good for anyone.

Stress is a silent assassin. It can take over and wreak a ton of havoc on your life. Symptoms of chronic stress can be seen in your body ( headaches and chest pains), in your mood (anxiety or irritability) and in your behavior (overeating, angry outbursts or unhealthy habits). So it’s important to notice stress triggers and take proactive steps to relieve the stress.

My Struggles

We’ve been together for a while now so can you guess which personality type I am? I aint got no type (Rae Sremmurd voice). Just kidding. It’s a no brainer that I’m one of those that takes themselves too seriously. Originally I was going to say I’m Type A, but actually I’m a C. I have struggled with perfectionism since I was a child. Not sure where it came from either. I am very goal and detail oriented and I am my own most critic.

Honestly, as much as I love pushing myself for greatness, I do get overwhelmed when my vision isn’t being executed to plan. I believe this is why I have taken my diagnosis and healing journey so hard. My grandma says its because I’ve lived a charmed life. I was like a mini King Midas. There hasn’t been a time in my life where I set forth a plan and followed the steps that I didn’t hit my goal.. until Myasthenia Gravis.

These past three years have kicked my butt. I’d set a goal and MG would say NOPE. Lack of control has been the hardest thing to accept. Chronic illness is forcing me to become more of a type B. To go with the flow; to be flexible, to laugh more and just enjoy the moments.

So my goal for 2020 and beyond is to continue to transform from a Type C to a Type B. Or maybe come up with my own hybrid personality. I still want to be great at everything, I just don’t want to fall apart when things don’t go to plan.

I had some practice being free a jovial a couple weeks back with I was invited to the Adult Play Date. Check it out. And remember, don’t take it so seriously. What’s going to happen, is going to happen.
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Morgan Greene is a Maryland chronic illness and holistic wellness lifestyle blogger. After years of struggling with her autoimmune disease diagnosis, Myasthenia Gravis, she decided to combine two of her favorite things…writing and informing others

IsWasWillBe.com was created to have unfiltered discussions about having a chronic illness. It has since become a place to inspire and create a sense of community among women with autoimmune diseases. Morgan loves trying new things and sharing with other spoonies how to live an ill life on their terms.

When she’s not blogging she is probably reading a book, drinking a Coke Slurpee or listening to music.

12 Comments

  1. December 31, 2019 / 11:01 am

    This is honestly something that I would have to think about. I’ve always been told that I was Type A. I even had a doctor tell me he thought I was type A. But I agree with you, having a chronic illness forces you to be for flexible.

    • Morg
      Author
      January 5, 2020 / 5:17 pm

      My therapist told me that she thought I was too uptight. I’m still learning flexibility. Its really difficult though because Im used to basically wanting and then executing.

  2. Lani
    January 4, 2020 / 11:04 am

    I get overwhelmed easily when I have 10 things going at one time.

    • Morg
      Author
      January 5, 2020 / 5:16 pm

      I can relate. I used to love operating like a browser with multiple tabs open. Now I think I’ve reached my max capacity. I’m have multiple browsers with multiple tabs. Too much!!

  3. January 4, 2020 / 2:07 pm

    Omg , I can relate so much to this. I am type a and yes, all this stress takes a big toll on my health.

    • Morg
      Author
      January 5, 2020 / 5:15 pm

      Have you found ways to decrease or manage stress? Or you just wait til you hit your breaking point?

      • January 6, 2020 / 12:03 am

        I practice dialectical behavior therapy. It helps me.

        • Morg
          Author
          January 6, 2020 / 7:24 pm

          I’ve never heard of it. How long have you been doing it?

  4. January 4, 2020 / 6:30 pm

    Nice breakdown of the personality types. I think I’m definitely a Type D!

    • Morg
      Author
      January 5, 2020 / 5:14 pm

      Teach me your ways LOL. I need to loosen up a bit.

  5. January 5, 2020 / 2:22 pm

    This was an eye opener! I definitely think I am Type A. It’s crazy how this effects your life.

    • Morg
      Author
      January 5, 2020 / 5:14 pm

      Other than the intense pressure, I see nothing wrong with being a Type A. They set amazing standards and often push things to new heights.

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